wedding night

Much of the drama surrounding wedding night sex is lore, handed down by generations (claiming to, or successfully) abstaining until matrimony. The majority of brides and grooms these days have engaged in some form of pre-marital sex, but wedding night performance applies if you and your bride are virgins, or decidedly not.

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While you're likely not navigating the female form for the first time, be ready for a different set of jitters. You may find yourself struggling to perform, or even forcing yourself to get in the mood. Don't worry; the beautiful lady on the other side of the veil will be thinking the same thing.

The best day of your life will not be the easiest. After having trouble sleeping the night before, you will fight boredom until it is time to dress, having watched weekend rerun movies until you slam the remote and pace in frustration. Your day starts in late afternoon or early evening with the ceremony and may last well into the next morning. Sometime after midnight, you and your wife are in an emotional maelstrom, tired and alone at last.

If you catch a second wind, go with the urge. Many, though, will struggle with the decision. Wedding night sex shifts form the discovery of parts unknown to tacit obligation. What do you do?

Of course, common sense should win out. If you and your wife are not in the mood, don't go through the motions for the sake of form; you've already been through one ceremony. Sex should be fulfilling and satisfying - like your marriage as a whole. To start a lifetime together with "Oh, let's get this over with" opposes everything that has driven the day.

If you have the energy and the inclination, though, enjoy your first night as a husband. You are ready. Your wife is ready. You know what comes next.

wedding night